In my experience, the obstacle that most often stands in someone's way of reaching their goal is themselves. People have too many damned excuses and distractions in today's world. There is always a "reason" for not doing something that you know you should be doing. When someone really focuses in on aspect of their lives, other aspects take a hit. A friend recently posted this on her Facebook page:
The Dalai Lama was asked what surprised him the most; he said, "Man, because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then he dies having never really lived.".
How true are those words? People crush themselves and destroy their health every day in order to "get ahead" at work. I respect that, I'm never going to bash on someone for having big time work ethic. But where is the balance? People spend all their time at their desk in the office, and wonder why they haven't met anybody. They spend all their time bent over their computer and wonder why their health has gone to shit.
People love to procrastinate, too.
"Oh, I'll go sign up for the gym tomorrow."
"I'll update my resume this weekend, the game is on now."
"I'll talk to her next time I see her at a bar."
Why not right now? What, you can't catch the recap of the game on Sports Center 19 times? Is her response going to be different next week than it would be today? People are so scared of failure today that they never ever try. Not trying is worse than failing; you never even gave yourself a chance. Wanna know a secret?
Every-fucking-body has failed numerous times in their life. Your parents, your sister, your boss, your friends, your personal trainer. Everybody has failed to meet a goal at some point in their life. It makes us human. You are not a unique or beautiful snowflake; you're not the first person to come up short. Failing isn't the important part; it's how you come back from that failure that shows what you're really made of. Are you going to roll over and die, or bust your ass to get better?
Hell, I've failed more times than I would like to admit to. You know what? I'm gonna keep trying. I always repeat this saying to myself: "Every day, and in every way, I get better and better."
It really means a lot to me. There is always some way in which I can improve myself over the day before. Figure out a better health behavior change strategy for a client; walk Lexi more; drink more water; help and old lady cross the street while on my way to saving a baby from a burning tree.
Stop being worried about failing. Start your diet and exercise program. Apply for the job you want. What's the worst thing that happens if you talk to that girl you've been pining after? She says no? She pepper sprays you in the face? Whoop-dee-frigging-doo!
I know I've posted this video before, but it's too good to not re-visit. If this doesn't make you simultaneously feel like a huge waste of space / want to go crush your day, then nothing will. I'm going to watch this, and then go try to blow up a lung with some Barbell Complexes. Enjoy.
Be better than yesterday.